Grieving a Loss — How Do I Get Through This?
Grief changes everything.
If you’re grieving the loss of a loved one, a relationship, a season of life, or something you can’t quite name, you may feel disoriented, exhausted, or numb. Some days you might feel okay. Other days, the weight of it all feels unbearable.
There is no “right way” to grieve — and there is no timeline you are required to follow.
Scripture speaks honestly about grief. God does not rush it or shame it.
“Jesus began to weep.”
— John 11:35
What Grief Can Feel Like
Grief often shows up in unexpected ways:
Deep sadness or tears that come without warning
Anger, guilt, or regret
Physical exhaustion or brain fog
A sense of loneliness, even around others
Feeling pressure to “move on” before you’re ready
Grief is not a lack of faith. It is a response to love and loss.
“Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.” — Matthew 5:4
What You Can Do When Grief Feels Heavy
1. Give Yourself Permission to Grieve
You don’t need to minimize your pain or compare it to others’ losses. What you lost mattered.
The Psalms are full of honest grief — God invites us to bring our sorrow to Him.
“My tears have been my food day and night.”
— Psalm 42:3
2. Say the Name of What You Lost
Naming your loss — aloud or in writing — can be an important step toward healing.
“I lost…”
“I miss…”
“I wish…”
God can handle your honesty.
3. Don’t Grieve Alone
Grief can isolate us, but healing often happens in the presence of others.
This might look like:
Talking with a trusted friend
Joining a grief support group
Meeting with a counselor
Reaching out to a pastor
“Carry one another’s burdens.”
— Galatians 6:2
4. Take Care of Your Body
Grief is not only emotional — it’s physical.
Rest when you can
Eat regularly
Step outside, even briefly
Small acts of care matter.
Where God Is in Grief
God is not distant from your sorrow. Scripture consistently shows Him near to the grieving.
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted.”
— Psalm 34:18
God does not demand that you feel hopeful right now. He simply invites you to stay connected.
When to Seek Additional Support
If grief begins to feel unbearable, overwhelming, or leads to thoughts of self-harm, please reach out for help:
Call or text 988 — Suicide & Crisis Lifeline
Call 211 for local grief and counseling resources in Snohomish County
Reach out to someone you trust today
We’re Here to Walk With You
If you would like prayer, pastoral care, or help finding support, our church is here for you.
Grief does not mean the end of hope — even if hope feels distant right now.
“He will wipe every tear from their eyes.” — Revelation 21:4